"For years, we've talked about finding the right woman -- someone we can ride the waves of life with, who will stand by our side for better or for worse... the one who will mother our children, help us plan life, pick us up when we're down and make us better men than we are right now," according to relationship expert Anthony D'Ambrosio.
Since most women are more expressive than men, ladies openly offer traits of their perfect man. Now, let's go over to the male perspective: What does the right woman look like for men? For years, women have held a widely-held stereotype that us guys wants a hot-looking girlfriend or trophy wife. But this research polling shows otherwise. In fact, most men go for important core values BEFORE beauty. Here are the 7 common traits that showed on in this study.
D'Ambrosio says, "being truly beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like, but everything to do with who you are. We want people who put as much time and energy into ensuring they look good as they do into being genuine and real." Don't try to cover up who you really are. When you are being genuine, you can relax more, and just be you.
2. Respect...for yourself
How you present yourself says a lot about who you are. Today with social media, it's basically your résumé for men. (I met my wife on Facebook through mutual friends.) Truthfully speaking, most men don't want someone who wants to be everywhere, toasting everything, and drinking with everyone. Posting about watching Netflix, or reading a compelling book can be much more appealing than being a party-all-the-time kinda of girl. Besides, the more low-key presentation will make you more intriguing.
It's no big newsflash that men are very physical human beings. By nature, we're drawn to touch. It's very warm and welcoming to a man. And it's not just about sex. According to D'Ambrosio, "we want a woman to reach out and grab our hand; we want for you to come over and kiss us randomly; we want for you to hug us and ask us how our day was." Guys enjoy feeling wanted, and not overly needed.
You do not have to have double degrees in political science and psychology. Accurate knowledge of the world around you (and your desire to make the world a better place), can create meaningful conversations. And women who have a strong drive to be successful can be the biggest turn on there is. In his world of complexity, you'll present yourself as wise and insightful. Now THAT is a woman a man can trust to counsel him in uncertain situations. You're not telling him what to do. You are giving another perspective that he may not see.
A woman who loves herself, regardless of her own flaws, will love a man for all of his. There's something REALLY attractive about a confident woman, and this has nothing to do with looks. To be real, we don't notice every one of your flaws you might see. We see someone who can compliment us, not just be a trophy at our side. This woman is content with herself - and her body. And she doesn't take life so seriously. We men are attracted to the woman who enjoys laughing with us.
As D'Ambrosio puts it "we don't want to have to make every decision alone. We need a visionary, one who can see beyond today. Determined women are more committed, simply due to the fact that they have laser focus." Failure is not an option. "When things get tough, she won't be so easy to quit and walk away. Aspiring people, in general, usually figure out how to make things work."
Humble women exude this compassion for others, putting others' happiness before their own; but never at their own expense. There's a sense of peace in knowing that her ego won't get in the way of creating a strong partnership. After all, looks, popularity or social status will never find you true love in the real world. What matters in the big picture is whom you are — that's what a real man wants. Just you. Flaws and all.