2. UNMET EXPECTATIONS. If you had a parent who had many qualities you admired, you kinda expect the same from your spouse. Perhaps it’s the way you respond to different situations; most usually the way you would behave. Unfortunately, they don’t. “Unmet expectations also migrate into marriage via the assorted screens we stare at daily. We spy unrealistic Hollywood depictions or relational perfection in social media.” The resulting feelings can lead anywhere from a subtle sadness to jealousy.
3. UNTRUE PERCEPTIONS. They do something one way (in their mind) rather innocently. The conclusions drawn can be completely false, but the other partner believes them to be true. “Our reactive behavior to untrue perceptions may take our spouse by surprise. Like the time my husband swung by the market on his way home from work, bringing me some half-and-half, just as I’d requested. However, when I spied the phrase “Fat-Free” on the side, I deduced that my husband wished I were a little more fat-free myself!”
So, what does this New York Times best-selling author have to say about the solutions to these conflict(s)?
Believe the best. Don’t assume the worst.
Ask clarifying questions. Don’t jump to conclusions.
Grant grace. Over and over again. Don’t give it an expiration date.
CREDIT: Karen Ehman-Fox News