Relationship expert Anthony D'Ambrosio sets the record straight:
For years, we've talked about finding the right woman -- someone we can ride the waves of life with, who will stand by our side for better or for worse... the one who will mother our children, help us plan life, pick us up when we're down and make us better men than we are right now. And that can happen at ANY age, by the way!
SO, what does the right woman look like in our eyes? For years, women have been sharing what they want in men, but there's this widely-held stereotype that all we want is the so-called “trophy wife.” Most men-deep down- do not agree. Most males go to core values.
Being truly beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like, but everything to do with who you are. We want people who put as much time and energy into ensuring they look good as they do into being genuine and real. You know “that girl” you are around your girlfriends? That's who you really are. Don't be so hesitant to be that way with us. Laugh with us. We love women who have senses of humor and don't take life so seriously.
How you present yourself says a lot about who you are. Today with social media, it's basically your résumé for men. Where you go, whom you go with, what you say and how you say it reflects you as an individual. And, truthfully speaking, men don't want someone who is everywhere, doing everything, with everyone. Most prefer the woman who's sitting home, reading a book or watching Netflix as opposed to getting drunk with her friends on the weekends; one who's life is kept more low-key, as it makes her more intriguing.
Men are very physical human beings. Everything for us elevates with touch. By nature, we're drawn to it. It goes without saying that a woman who is very free with her offerings of affection will entice us. It's very warm and welcoming to a man. Just like you, we want a woman to reach out and grab our hand; we want for you to come over and kiss us randomly; we want for you to hug us and ask us how our day was. It evokes this feeling of being wanted. It just strengthens that connection we have with you and opens up lines of communication, but more importantly, makes us feel comfortable — invited in, so to speak.
Stimulating conversations make a man go crazy. Intelligent women are ones who know so much about the world around them, but even more so, have a keen interest in making it a better place. They think critically and engage our senses. Furthermore, they have this drive to be successful, which in itself, can be the biggest turn on there is. The decisions we face in life can often present us with uncertainty and having someone insightful by our side can help us make the right ones. This doesn't require a degree from Harvard, or any degree for that matter, just intellect, reasoning and understanding.
A woman who loves herself, regardless of her own flaws, will love a man for all of his. Beyond loving you, she will knock down the doors of resistance and reach for the stars with you. There's something sexy about a confident woman, and it has nothing to do with looks. To be truthful, we don't notice every one of your flaws. Knowing she understands her worth is innately appealing. In essence, you're looking at someone who can compliment you, not just be a trophy at your side. She's content with herself and her body.
We don't want to have to make every decision alone. We need a visionary, one who can see beyond today. Determined women are more committed, simply due to the fact that they have laser focus. Failure isn't a choice for them. Ultimately, a woman who is willing to push forward to be the best mother to her children or have a successful career is one who will strive for a successful relationship. When things get tough, she won't be so easy to quit and walk away. Aspiring people, in general, usually figure out how to make things work.
Humble women exude this compassion for others, putting others' happiness before their own. But, they do this in such a way that brings them peace and protection. Knowing that someone has this desire to put us first immediately shows that your ego won't get in the way of creating a strong partnership. There's this misconception that looks, popularity or even social status will find you true love, but it won't.So, stop trying. What matters is whom you are — that's what a real man wants. Just you, flaws and all.