Social media has a lot more reach into the "serious" dating pool than you might think. Take a look at the checklist from relationship writer Erin Joseph to see if you're doing any of these things, and what might need to changed.
1. You said the ‘M' word and you haven't even met yet.
If the word marriage is all over your social media, red flags are being thrown everywhere.
While marriage is a lovely thing to aspire to, it is something to be discussed at a much later date, and in private.
If you are using it as a topic of conversation and often, you're screaming to potential partners, “I WANT TO GET MARRIED AND I WANT IT NOW!” It could potentially scare off future prospects and send the message that you want to move too fast.
2. You're bad-mouthing the opposite sex.
Do NOT be that person who posts every day how awful men are or how crazy women are. All you are doing is letting the world know you are scorned, and most likely not over the last person who hurt you.
You're setting your future partner up for failure by letting him or her know you're expecting him or her to hurt you and it won't work out.
3. You take too many selfies.
Nothing says, “I'm a narcissistic mental case,” like posting lots and lots of selfies. There is nothing wrong with one every now and then, but if you're posting a head-shot every other day… no.
The message you're putting out is, I am self-centered and attention-seeking.
4. You breathe negativity.
If you are airing out your dirty laundry, advertising your drama publicly or just being a Negative Nancy or Darrell Downer in general, you will be single forever.
In the game of love, misery does NOT love company. People are looking for someone to be a positive influence in their lives and build them up; we could be sad all by ourselves.
5. You're posting pre-meditated self-advertising.
If you are going to post, post something meaningful and positive that lets people know what a positive force you could be in their lives without actually saying, “Hey! If you dated me, I could be so good for you because I have a good job and I am happy most of the time and I could send you flowers and I could take you shopping and…”
Yeah, don't do that either. It's equally as bad, and I see it equally as often.
6. You're complaining about being single.
You are most likely single because you are on Facebook complaining about how single you are.
If you are posting about how badly you want a partner, you're letting the world know you just want anyone and not a special someone. Desperation is the ugliest trait.
Men and women alike want someone who has his or her own life but wants to make you a part of it. If you're advertising how badly you need a significant other, stop that now.
7. You aren't leaving enough mystery.
No one needs to know what you are doing every second of every day. We get it, you dropped Bob off at soccer practice and now you're going to the grocery store. You're getting ready, then going out.
C'mon, y'all, leave something to talk about on a date. If everyone knows all about you before you even meet, what is the point in dating!?
There is no shame in the game, just keep it off your personal sites that are viewable by your friends, family and colleagues.
8. You're posting WAY too many party pics.
There's certainly nothing wrong with having a good time or even showing you are a fun person. But if a mass majority of your social media pictures are set in bars, you may be placed in the "party person" category.
OK, before you call that prudish to say, new relationship research shows singles who are ready to seek a potential mate are looking for those who display more life balance and depth of personality.
9. Your political views are TOO militant.
It's one thing to have a certain belief in politics; whether left or right. But, when you start hateful name-calling using metaphors that offensive, most potential mates will move on (including the ones you may have already met).
Most people looking to settle down can accept respectful differences of opinion, but the more well-grounded potential partners will run away at any sign of mean-spirited wishes on an opposite view. In their minds they might question if that "style" of expressing opinion would creep into marriage?
10. Your photos are showing a little too much skin.
An occasional shot at the beach is OK. But close-ups that say "check out my body" will grab responses that are totally centered on your physique, and very little on your heart. Besides, the creepers and stalkers will probably surface.
Your perfect potential match would probably notice your belief in being fit in a positive way, but too much revealing of physical attributes may say you love yourself a little too much. (See #3)