If only life were like a romantic comedy or advertising. Valentine's Day is certainly a happy occasion for many, but not others. If you are unhappy on this day, there are reasons why. Agree or disagree?
Here are 15 reasons why not all are completely happy during Valentine's Day:
- Being reminded that you're not in a relationship: Here's a common source for the single. Most other days, you know being single is much better than being in a bad relationship. But on this day, society collectively decides to be politically incorrect towards single people.
- Being reminded that you are in a relationship: This is more difficult on Valentine's Day; seeing other couples around you that seem happier than you.
- Being reminded that you are trying to be in a relationship: Valentine's Day can be the moment of clarity when that person is out with someone else during Valentine's Day. Things aren't looking too good. The Friend Zone is like the Phantom Zone.
- Being reminded that your significant other is not around: Not all couples can be together during Valentine's Day. Maybe your significant other is long-distance, traveling, or a Capulet and you are a Montague.
- Being reminded that your kids may be in relationships: Yes, your kids may be finally old enough to date. Worrying about this can cause anxiety about who they are with or why they grew up so quickly.
- Being reminded of past relationships: Valentine's Day can be like syndication for your past romantic regrets, making you replay your mistakes over and over again. On the flip side, Valentine's Day can prompt your favorite stalkers to reappear and step up their games, calling, texting, or messaging you or sending lovely gifts.
- Stressing your relationship: Where is this relationship going? Do you love me? Why do we argue so much? When are you going to get a better job? And the big one: When are we going to get married?
- Taking your relationship to another level: Depending on where you are, Valentine's Day may be a cue to take your relationship to another level, but you and your partner may not be on the same page or even the same book, which could be stressful.
- Failing to meet expectations: Some expectations for Valentine's Day can be so high that you just can't reach them. Spending weeks thinking that your significant other is going to whisk you away to a skiing getaway to Colorado could put things on the down slope.
- Forcing roles: Roles as in duties and expectations and not baked goods. Some may chafe under the standard roles of Valentine's Day and feel that the holiday is old-fashioned.
- Being reminded that you have no money or are spending money: Valentine's Day can be expensive for all the reasons below. Yes, money can't buy you love, but apparently it can rent it.
- Trying to secure a reservation in any restaurant that doesn't serve Happy Meals and Big Macs: Popular restaurants are booked weeks in advance, leaving the non-planners with the choice of the 3 pm or midnight dinner slots.
- Getting flowers that are not weeds: So dandelions don't count as flowers? If Valentine's Day is a boon for restaurants, it means absolutely everything for florists. Therefore, buying flowers can involve more planning than a military operation; especially if you want an on-time delivery.
- Buying a gift that is not just a thought: Unless you really know your significant other and have a mutual understanding, trying to buy the right gift can be stressful.
- Dealing with the drama and the aftermath: People do all kinds of things when they are emotional. Arguments, fights, abuse, and failed proposals. There are more breakups immediately before, during, or right after Valentine's Day.
In the end, Valentine's Day is just a day, so keep things in perspective. Remember, it is much better to be single than in a bad relationship, and you shouldn't base your worth on a relationship. And don't put too much pressure on yourself for Valentine's Day. The measure of your relationship should be what you do the other 364 days of the year. And HERE'S MORE!