Over the top romantic gestures aren’t necessary for a strong happy relationship. It really is the small things, that when they become a habit, the strongest positive effects happen over time. Marriage therapist have come up with a list of 7 simple things that can make a big difference.
7. Schedule time to have real conversations. ― NOT just about the grocery list and the kids’ math homework but real feelings based conversation. Like you had when you were dating. Also set regular finance conversations before some type of budget-related disaster occurs.
6. Ask for what you want instead of blaming your partner for not giving it to you. –Ditch sentences that start with “You” and switch them to sentences that contain “I”. Instead of “You care more about your work than you do about me!” Try, “I feel neglected and disappointed, when your work email is checked during our date time.”
5. Apologize when you’ve screwed up.-NOT, “Sorry if you feel that way.” But a genuine apology acknowledging mistakes or regretful words.
4. Squeeze in hugs, kisses and other displays of affection. –You don’t have to suck each other’s face off. Little touches here and there, kissing hello and good bye should be a part of your regular routine.
3. Compliment and thank one another.-The same things that you would appreciate if a stranger did them, bring you a plate of food, holds a door open, are the same things your spouse does and should be acknowledge. Sincere compliments are a boost to anyone, why shouldn’t your spouse be offered that kindness.
2. Do thoughtful little things for each other, just because.- Nothing major but a simple note left for your spouse or making them a cup of coffee, is an easy way to leave them feeling cared for.
1. Get a good night’s sleep.- We’re not at our best when we’re exhausted. Lack of sleep can leave us, short-tempered and unable to focus. Conversely, getting sufficient rest makes us better people and more loving partners.